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Friend or Pro Photographer?

Friend or Pro Shooter?

CONSIDER THIS:  The event itself lasts just 1 day (or less), but GREAT photos will bring back your Happy Memories all your life, and for 7 more generations of loved ones, AND be a record for another 700+ years too!
Need to fit a budget? Put your hard-earned money where YOU get the most from it -- compromise elsewhere.

For gorgeous once-in-your-lifetime photos, you will choose either a friend / loved one, or a recommended professional photographer?  There are pros and cons to each one:

PROs for FRIEND (the upside):

  • Free or cheap
  • Might offer unlimited time shooting
  • Familiar face and energy
  • May get insider pics from knowing the group’s politics
  • If you like to do it, you probably can micro-manage a friend shooting
  • Friend may party or drink with you.

CONs – FRIEND (the downside):

  • Friend may party or drink while working – drunk people with only 1 hand free, don’t get good photos
  • May expect compensation elsewhere (i.e. big tip, free drinks, favors, borrow your car or condo)
  • Friend may not handle real challenges to your liking
  • May NEED micro-managing (if inexperienced)
  • May resist micro-managing, argue, sulk or feel insulted and stop shooting
  • Expectations are casual, so he may miss good shots which are important to you
  • Chatting, distracted by other guests, and miss important shots
  • If you speak up about it, you risk hurt feelings, arguing, embarrassment
  • Friend can just refuse your suggestions
  • Friend can take embarrassing pics or gossip about private things seen / heard
  • If friend gets sick, too drunk/high, injured, has travel problems–then a good replacement is hard to find at last minute.
  • Friend might not handle challenges (bad weather, rain, poor lighting, rude guests, dead batteries, hairdo and make-up failures, emotional meltdowns)
  • Friend may not know how to help people relax—gets awkward, adds to your stress, wastes time
  • Friend may not know how to pose people to look their best
  • You risk your photos  being poor quality.
  • If you don’t like the photos, you risk hurt feelings & no solutions
  • Thus, you risk having no great wedding photos
  • Friend may not have truly high-tech equipment or authentic editing skills
  • If someone breaks his camera or lights, or gets injured (tripping/falling), or he damages property (drops your wedding rings, breaks a chair he stood upon), YOU pay for the camera, the doctor, and the lost property!
  • Because this was a free/cheap project for a pal (you), your wedding pics may get low priority to finish editing & deliver.

CON – PROFESSIONAL (the downside):

  • You pay a set, pre-determined fee 
  • She may not feel like a familiar face at first
  • Shooter may not accept being micro-managed
  • Professional will not party/drink with you
  • Pro may not handle challenges to your liking (good recommendations fix this one)

PRO – PROFESSIONAL (the upside):

  • Professional shooter will not party on the job; stays sober and focused
  • If you don’t like something, you can ask for a change without argument or hurt feelings
  • Professional knows how to pose people to look their best
  • Professional always helps people to relax, be comfortable and genuine for photos
  • No embarrassing shots or gossiping; all stays confidential
  • You choose when the shooting starts and stops
  • Photographer is your employee to direct
  • If you don’t want to micro-manage on your wedding day, you don’t have to
  • Pro always takes your posing suggestions
  • If she is sick, injured or unable to work, she sends a good, professional, reliable replacement shooter
  • Professional can get clever shots from being unrestricted by your group’s politics
  • Uses professional high-tech equipment and editing tools and experienced skills
  • A recommended and experienced Professional handles challenges well (i.e. drunk or rude guests or meltdowns, weather, dead batteries, hairdo and make-up failures, etc.)
  • Professional will definitely get you great photos
  • If you don’t like the results, a professional can re-edit differently, or offer compensation or partial refund–without hurt feelings (good recommendations & experience avoid this)
  • Professional has insurance coverage if someone damages her equipment, or any property, or a guest gets injured (grandpa falls and breaks a hip trying to help move a prop, or sister trips over a camera bag), you don’t pay for those expensive, surprise bills!
  • Professional shooter delivers your photos on time because you’re a paying customer.
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Guest List Managing Advice

Guest List Making Advice

Guest list shown on notebook paper and pen
Struggling with managing a list of guests? 
Got relatives scattered? 
Been travelling a lot and lost touch with friends?
Or parents have guests they want included?
Not sure who to invite?
Try this simple, logical, useful flowchart to help decide which guest to invite to your beach wedding when you just are not sure.
You’re welcome! 
Guest

Still Overwhelmed?! Ideas...

  • Try hiring a Wedding Planner or Coordinator we recommend on our Suggested Vendors page. There are also Invitation services online on The Knot and Wedding Wire websites.
  • Ask your friends, coworkers or colleagues who married to recommend an Invitation Service.  Sometimes those companies can offer solutions to invitation dilemmas and awkward decisions. 
  • Another popular solution is to ELOPE alone for a happy, warm, EASY private beach wedding. Hire a videographer (we recommend Bob Collins at www.bobvox.com). Later on, you throw a big reception party dinner & cake back home complete with a large viewing screen for the video! 
  • Invite everyone who wants to view your wedding video and celebrate!  For extra party time fun, you can:
    • ‘Re-enact’ the ceremony with a fun-natured loved one Officiating
    • Get friends/family to stand up as Best Man, Best Dog, best Woman, Flower Boy, etc. 
    • Wear your wedding dress and suit again for that party! 
    • Carry a small bouquet and THROW IT.  Or throw a bridal scarf or hat!
    • Have toasts and songs from Guests, a cake Cutting and Feeding, have your First Dance, Daddy/Daughter or Mommy/Son dances, do the Shoe Game, Dollars Dance, Broom Jump, a Photo Booth, sign a Quilt or Ketubbah, do karaoke, etc.   
    • Have fun with getting  people involved in the FUN!